Is there something you want in your life but are finding that no matter what you do, it is not being achieved?
I am sure you are very familiar with this word. Patience. Take a deep breath in and out… Patience is a virtue. A very important one that I learned on my life journey. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.
What does patience look like to YOU? Was there a time in your life where this virtue made itself apparent or maybe you are currently being asked to be patient.
Patience can be called upon in many different scenarios. Waiting for the bus, having patience in your doctor’s office, sitting in traffic or for the sun to come out on a cloudy day. Alternatively it can sound like this “It has been 5 years now I have been looking for a loving partner” or “2 years waiting to get pregnant” or “It has been 8 years waiting for the career position I want. ”
The degree of patience may be different in each situation, but let’s focus on the situations that require more than 24 hours of patience. When I think about what it means to be patient this is what I believe to be true. I believe patience is God telling us “hold on, the best is coming to you, I just need more time to make it perfect.”
When I hear people saying “I have lost my patience”, this means to me that you no longer have faith or you do not care to have what you are asking for.
Most people see patience as “waiting”. This can be a trap for “suffering” until “it” happens. I used to think this way, and it wasn’t fun or joyful. This way of thinking actually robs you of the joy of today. You prevent yourself from loving and appreciating each present moment because you are “waiting” and “wasting” time.
Let’s try this exercise together. Make a list of the things you really want and have been waiting for.
Example 1: Buying a house
2. New relationship
3. Weight Loss
Now for each example, make a list of the reasons preventing you from getting what you want.
Let’s take a new relationship:
- I am fat
- No one likes me
- There are no good men out there
- It is easier to be alone
*Note. Do not stop at the conscious level. What thoughts do you have each day about it and also how do you feel about it. To take this one step further, how do people around you influence you thoughts about getting what you want.*
Now I want you to review the list. Maybe what you desire may not be what you are projecting out in the Universe. OR maybe the Universe is waiting to deliver the perfect home/relationship to you that has not been made available to you. This is having faith. In the meanwhile, it is important to look at the emotions attached to your goals ie. losing weight, career change and work on changing the emotions ie. fear to excitement, joy and confidence. You may do this in many ways, but one may be visualizing yourself in the situation you desire. ie in a new relationship feeling calm and happy and having all you need to feel safe and secure.
Dr. Wayne Dyer, one of my favourite spiritual teachers taught me that “our thoughts create our reality”. Knowing this truth brings me to question my thoughts and beliefs around everything I desire in life. If my thoughts are not helping me to attract the things I want and desire then I work on changing them. This may be a new concept for you, but trust me, it works. The sooner you change your thoughts and BELIEVE that you can have whatever you want, the Universe will deliver it to you. If you need help getting “unstuck” reach out, I can help.
Be patient with yourself and others. This is so important. Don’t focus so much on the end goal or desire, but the beautiful journey in getting there. You will get there eventually, maybe not the direct route you planned but the winding road is worth the trip.
Take the road less traveled and be sure to smell the roses on your way…
Much love and patience,
Dr. Jen Cisternino, Naturopath, Life Coach, Intuitive Healer
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